Can you be a Gay Christian?

Wow!  Isn’t that the question of the day in America?  The question that is dividing Christian denominations.  The question that is causing pastors to be arrested in parts of the Western world for hate speech violations.  The question that (perhaps) will be the tool for persecution of the American church.  If I truth-1123020_960_720didn’t type it myself I might think this is a trap!  So what is the answer to the question?  The answer depends on your source of inquiry.  Perhaps we should go to the Bible for our answer?  The Bible clearly gives us the answer to “the question of the day.”  One of the basic tenants of Christianity is that the Scriptures are “inspired by God” or “God breathed” (2 Timothy 3:16) so let’s see what God says.

Can I become a Christian if I’m… _______?

The answer to the question above is a resounding “YES!”  Your personal identity is of no consequence in becoming a Christian.  Let’s give it a try; can I become a Christian if:

  • I’m gay?
  • My parents are Muslim?
  • I’m an adulterer?
  • I’ve committed murder?
  • I am a cheat?
  • I am a thief?
  • I have bad thoughts?
  • I’m a bad parent?
  • I’m a deadbeat dad?
  • I’m involved in a false religion

You get the idea and the answer is yes!

For God so loved the world, that He gave His only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life. (John 3:16 ESV)

The “whoever” in the verse above covers any bullet point in the list above as well as any other personal bullet point you might add.

How do I Become a Christian?

I am the door. If anyone enters by me, he will be saved and will go in and out and find pasture. (John 10:9)

This is beautiful imagery Jesus is using to express a spiritual truth.  Jesus refers to Himself as the door in the verse above.  The door to what?  The door in which one must pass through in order to be saved.  In other words, you must pass through the door to enter the kingdom of God.  The kingdom of God is a spiritual kingdom which is made up

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of those who have been saved by entering through the door.  As you see in the verse above, once one freely enters the door they belong to Jesus Christ just as a sheep belongs to a shepherd.  To enter is to trust Him with your life and follow Him wherever He may lead.  Jesus continues with this analogy in John 10:

10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly. 11 I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep.

So you see – salvation or “being a Christian” is available to anyone and everyone.  The kingdom of God is available to anyone who freely chooses to enter through the door.  It does not matter who you are or what you have done If anyone enters by me, he will be saved

Where do I find “The Door?”

Remember, in John 10 Jesus is speaking metaphorically to describe a spiritual truth.  He is describing how mankind is able to be forgiven of all sin and enter into the spiritual kingdom of God.  The bottom line is this, Jesus is encountered in many different places and in many different ways.  He is encountered in sermons, books, personal testimonies, even dreams.  When we encounter Jesus we encounter the one who paid the penalty for our sins and purchased a place for us in Heaven.  In other words we encounter the doorway to the kingdom of God.  Walking through simply means that we willingly accept Jesus for who He is King of kings and Lord of lords (Revelation 19:16).  But this goes beyond agreeing to the information, to walk through the door you make Him your King and your Lord.  Walking through the door means you trust Jesus Christ with your salvation and your lifeYou now belong to Him just as a sheep belongs to a shepherd.

Um… so what’s the Answer to the Question?

The answer is “no.”  Remember, walking through the door means you agree to Jesus as King.  You agree to trust the Good Shepherd not only with your salvation but also with your life.  You cannot say “I accept you as my Lord…. but I’m doing things my way.”  If you willfully refuse God’s instruction you have not received a Lord.  You have not entered the kingdom of God by walking through the door.  If you are going to insist on any personal identity that is outside of God’s will for His children, you have not entered through the door.  Jesus came into the world so that we could have a new identity!  If you have passed through the door your identity is that of a child of God!  Not gay, not adulterer, not fornicator, not a thief, not liar, not fill in the blank.  If you insist on holding onto your former identity you have chosen to stay in the world and not enter the spiritual kingdom of God.  But if you enter, you are a redeemed child of God!

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation.  The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. (2 Corinthians 5:17)

What does this Mean?

For those who walk through the door into the kingdom of God, it means the old has passed away; behold, the new has come.  Jesus has made all things new in your life.  Let me tell you just a couple of things that this DOES NOT mean:

First, it does not mean that you need to tell gay people how wrong it is for them to be gay.  It does not mean that you hate them, protest them, argue with them or unfriend them.  Your greatest interest is to bring them to the door.  What mankind needs is to walk through the door.  You can however play a part by introducing them to Jesus / the door.  Your role in the kingdom is not to change the behavior of those on the outside.

Second, it does not mean that Children of God never struggle with their former identities.  But remember that deliverance is available, we are not slaves to our former ways.  When children of God stray from kingdom ways (sin) they are violating who they rightfully are in Christ.  Your role with kingdom people is much different than your role with people of the world.  Christians are obligated to address conduct with other Christians (in love).  Kingdom people are robbing themselves of the joy God has for them while straying outside of God’s will.  The loving thing to do is to address it with our kingdom brothers and sisters as God’s Spirit directs us.  Where the Good Shepherd leads us to is much, much better than anything the world offers.

If you are a Christian – continue to grow spiritually as a son or a daughter.  If you are not – please consider receiving the love, forgiveness, acceptance, grace and mercy that is found by walking through the door.






9 thoughts on “Can you be a Gay Christian?

  1. Great Article, Danny on such a difficult subject. I would say I agree with you. Anyone can come to Christ, but you cannot turn to Jesus without turning away from your old life. Repentance matters. But I’ll go a bit deeper. When one is born again there are some immediate changes and some that take time (God’s still working on me). So the question is: are there some changes we expect immediately or does God give us time as He works on us? If we don’t change overnight, how much time does one have to change? If God gives us time as the Spirit works on us, do we as Christians have a right to decide when it’s been long enough? This is why is have a problem deciding when someone who is gay is not saved or born again (or for anyone else, for that matter)

    I had a person who was in a gay relationship coming to church for years. They did everything that other Christians do, but could not bring themselves to break off their relationship. We loved that person and treated them as any other, and one day they came to me and said they were breaking it off and they did and eventually married someone of the opposite sex, but it took years. I wonder what would’ve happened if we had approached it differently? Was she saved the whole time or only when she changed her lifestyle?

    Breaking off a long term relationship is not always easy. if you put aside the feelings, there are financial, legal and family issues involved. It’s not always as simple as saved today, move out tomorrow. These are just questions I ponder as I navigate helping people live out their lives in Christ.

    Thanks for all you do for Christ, my friend.


    1. Mylon,

      Thank you for the response and the wonderful story! I think we are tracking 100% on this. What I was trying to do is to make a distinction between a person struggling with a stronghold or a seeker being drawn in by the Holy Spirit with a person who chooses something else over Christ.

      I ponder these questions as well and certainly believe each situation should be acted upon with guidance from the Holy Spirit rather than some sort of law. There is a fine line between expecting changes to occur in a person saved by grace and mixing works into one’s perception of salvation. Certainly the timeline is in God’s hands and not ours. I hope to always be sensitive to this. At the same time I want to make sure to express that Jesus is Lord as well as Savior.

      Thank you again Mylon…. I welcome your wisdom on this site anytime you have time to share!


  2. You are a blessing and I am grateful for your teaching.You have expressed the truth in this article. I have seen testimony about a third category for the gay believer who is not practicing a gay lifestyle. It seems to me same sex attraction has been around for a long time and is part of the fall. Same sex attraction is probably(possibly) not going away with salvation; just like my lust of the flesh, lust of the eyes and the pride of life are part of life in this fallen body. Yes, I am delivered from the death sentence accompanying these sins; but not from the daily battle. So, is there not room for a formerly practicing gay who has repented, accepted Christ and is practicing a celibate Christian lifestyle even with remaining same sex attractions? Might that person refer to themselves as gay in the sense of attraction as opposed to practicing a gay lifestyle? Is there not a group of gay Christians? just asking questions for clarity in the ChurchThey will know we are Christians by our love.

    Bart Bratcher 512-922-5256 “In a loud voice they sang:’Worthy is the Lamb, who was slain, to receive power and wealth and wisdom and strength and honor and glory and praise.'” Rev 5:12


    1. Bart…. I can’t do it “Coach,”

      My two cents: I certainly believe that anyone who has truly accepted Christ is saved. This certainly includes those who have lived the homosexual lifestyle. I imagine that some are delivered from this attraction immediately, others with counseling and still others may always struggle with same sex attraction.

      I also believe those who have repented and accepted Christ are saved whether they refer to themselves as “gay-Christians” or not. But I would encourage them to not view themselves as gay but redeemed. Let’s say, for example, that I have struggled with a violent temper which has caused me to be a brawler. But, I repented, received Christ and the full pardon for those sins. I have received the righteousness of Christ! I believe it is important that I view myself as a redeemed child of God and not a “brawler-Christian” even if I do still struggle with temper. If I see myself as a redeemed child of God, then when I do fall short, I can say “that’s not who I am” which I believe to be a better mindset than “well, this is just how I was made.”

      Thank you for your comments. These questions are not easy, are they? Hopefully we can sharpen each other.


      1. This is a very interesting conversation and the subject is timely. One thing that I don’t believe has been mentioned is DNA. For years scientists seem to be searching for the homosexual gene. I guess if they could find that, nobody could be blamed except God. As far as I know, that gene has never been discovered. Would it make a difference?


  3. Even if one has a proclivity we decide to act in our souls. Heterosexuals may desire sex out of wedlock as well but that is outside of God’s plan and should be suppressed in favor of the Spirit. God’s will is best for the individual.


  4. Excellent discussion. It’s a very good model that seems to have merit Danny, thank you. It offers a narrative I could not find when you and I talked about abortion. I believe that a life begins at conception (and thus aborting is akin to killing). But, I also feel that bringing a child onto this earth is the most AWESOME (and not in sense that it is used by teenagers) responsibility known to man. And, it is SO painful when we fail at child rearing – whether it be like the child in Houston recently killed and dumped a highway, remains in a trashbag, or the countless starving and disease populations of children in poor underdeveloped counties, or the monthly shootings at schools reported too frequently on the news. Applying your model says that I likely cannot be a proponent of pro-choice, and also a Christian, like I wish I could be. And probably like almost every person participation in the decision to abort a life, would like to be. My conscience tells me to BE a Christian.

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